Truth to be told, I have been dealing with couple of broken relationships that tear my heart apart but the heart gains several thoughts & ding ding ding, some relationships are meant to be broken!
To waste our anger and resentments is not the way to do it to express our hurt feelings. Same goes to invalidating that person's feelings and ignoring their legitimate concerns will prove to be equally ineffective as well. So why even bother to try to fix everything?
My ultimate goal of communication is reconciliation and forgiveness, then the sooner we stop all the behaviors that are about shaming, guilting and punishing one of another, the sooner we will be able to forgive and work on the issues that need to be addressed. Well apparently I did my part and it doesn't work out the way it should be so again, why bother to try to fix everything?
One thing led to another, when you break up with someone you love boldly & truly, it really hurts! All the history & good times together once shared, you feel so heartbroken & try to figure out what the hell went wrong which in my case, I already knew it from the start.
But like the wise people said, sometimes a relationship ends simply because it has come to natural end of its life. I believe some relationships have a limited time, let's make it fun - an expired date to it. It doesn't mean the relationship was bad or worthless, it can simply mean that you are now moving in different directions and want different things from life.
Just like other life affirming relationships that we treasure, relationships with lovers, husbands, siblings, children and even pets, out closest friendships are imperfect. Friendships are fraught with disappointments and misunderstandings, resulting in some of the highest highs and the lowest lows of our emotional lives.
For me, I do miss the old times of everything that placed as it was but again, if the relationships that we built so strong are meant to be broken, then why even bother to fix it?
